The happiest couples are not so by chance, but because they maintain habits and routines necessary for that couple to be perfect. A psychologist specialized in personal relationships has revealed the tricks to stay united (and happy, most importantly) with your partner, and it is communication! (who would have thought that communication was going to be the key for a couple to work?!!!!)
So, we are going to tell you what this psychologist says about why some couples are much happier than others, and the thing is, we cannot let the couple also fall into routine, yes, we both have one, our life, our things, but communication has to be there (along with trust, please!!)
Being able to talk and feel at home
Doctor Mark Travers, psychologist from Cornell University and specialist in couples therapy, explains that the key to happy relationships is consistency! You have to talk intentionally and openly every day, this makes couples grow together instead of drifting apart over time, think about it, don’t you like a good conversation with your partner about any topic? Well here are four tips to know that you are living a healthy, not toxic and perfect relationship:
You check the state of the relationship
You already know that as time goes by, the passion from the beginning “calms down,” but the happiest couples always do a daily emotional check, and verify if their partner is happy, if they feel supported, if they felt loved today. Small questions that ensure that everything is going well, so if any setback arises, they can cut the problem as soon as it happens to be able to continue the path together.
Do we like the same things?
You don’t have to be two clones or like the same things, but you do have to show interest in what the other person likes, whether it is a song, a book, a hobby or a funny video, showing curiosity about what excites the other is fundamental! Even if they don’t share the same hobbies, the interest shows that both are still growing together and not taking each other for granted!
What about the future?
What is the point of being in a relationship where you don’t see a future? Talking about trips, projects, family goals or even crazy ideas like “what would you do with a year off?” creates complicity and a shared sense of purpose, plus, you include your partner in all your plans. It doesn’t matter if those dreams are realistic or not; the important thing is to keep alive the excitement of building a path together!
Your fears are also mine
The strongest couples are not afraid to talk about the uncomfortable. A good bond should feel like a safe space to share work problems, personal insecurities or even doubts about the relationship itself. When both listen with empathy, a bond is created that is hard to break.
Random thoughts
Not everything has to be deep. Sometimes a simple thought, a spontaneous joke or a “what if…?” brings lightness to the day. These conversations that seem unimportant are actually small doses of complicity that nurture intimacy and make the relationship feel more alive.
The importance of intention
Remember that happy relationships do not build themselves. It is about choosing, every day, the topics that bring us closer instead of those that push us apart. In that shared space fit curiosity, fun, serious projects and vulnerabilities. So, everything comes down to a good conversation even if it is uncomfortable, having fun and taking care of each other. That is always the most important thing!